Tuesday, June 24, 2014

30 Year Old BFFs

This morning I drove back from an incredible two days with my best friend Courtney. We spent 48 hours in comfy clothes, eating delicious food and watching our sons play like they've been friends forever ;)

I've talked a lot about Court on this blog. I'm so thankful to have her in my life. Her and I have an honest and deep 10 year+ friendship. When I'm struggling with something she is always the one I reach out to (her and my mom!) I wish we lived closer. 

                (September 2013)

Since having London, I've had some friendships end for various reasons. I came across this article about what being a BFF means in your 30's and I can relate to some many of the points. It got me thinking about my own friendships.

I moved a lot growing up- 9 times by the time I graduated high school. I went to three different elementary schools and two high schools and was forced to start over quite a bit. I was painfully shy as a child which made meeting people difficult. I have two girls I have been friends with for 20+ years, Court and now a new collection of "mom friends." 

            (Friends for 22 years!)

When I was younger it was easy to keep in touch with friends. Yes, there wasn't Facebook, twitter or texting (I did have a pager) but it was simple. You picked up a phone and talked or made plans to hang out. We planned girl trips to Vegas, Pboenix, Seattle and White Rock. We had free time, money and no accountability.

Life has changed quite a bit in the past few years. 

These days, there is less time to chat on the phone and catchups are usually done via text or email. Sometimes, it'll be months before I talk to one of my friends. Other days, there will be two dozen emails exchanged. Either way, it never seems like any time has passed.

Our conversations have shifted from cute guys, boy bands and girls trips to our husbands, Bubble Guppies and visits from the in-laws.

I'm so grateful for my friendships and look forward to meeting more people to add to my circle. 

Thank you Court for being my rock. For agreeing with me when I need you to and for being brutally honest without ever hurting my feelings. You have shown me what a true friend is. I know our boys are going to be great friends too! 

Do you have a big group of friends?
What qualities are important to you in a friendship?
Do you find it easy to make new friends? 


  1. Wow, you moved a lot, I never moved at all. And kept many of the same friends all through school. I am still close with my best friends from school, all 5. I had a larger group of people we sort of hung out with but I am not in contact with any of them. Now I joke that I have too many friends lol. I always try my best to keep in contact with everyone so over the years I have made friends from college, university, my first job, my job now, other Moms and more. But I love it. I may not see everyone a ton but when I do it feels like we just saw each other. I guess because of this I would have to say I do think it is easy to make friends, though I typically thought of myself as shy growing up.

  2. That's a great article! I was the same as you... I moved for college, made a whole new group of friends there then moved out here and didn't know anyone until I met all of my mom friends. I still have one best friend back home but it is more difficult since she doesn't have any kids... I find I've come very complacent over the past couple of years in regards to losing friends. I used to let it get to me and take it personal, but in reality people come into and out of your life for a reason, there's no reason to ever have harsh feelings over it. I'm glad you came into MY life and I hope you stay there. Your so lucky to have a friend like Courtney... most people go their whole lives without a friendship like that so hang onto her and don't let her go! xo

    PS the boys are SO cute together!

    1. Tawnya, I too use to become very upset and take things very personally when friends would come and go, but as I grow up, I know that they come and go for a reason, and those who are meant to stay, will. This has become especially true since I've become a mama. :)

  3. Those boys are adorable together!

    I had a hard time keeping friends in school, too much cattiness going on in my school. My high school friends I'm in contact with are all my guy friends. I have a small handful of people I call my best friends and used to have a wider circle of other friends I could socialize with. Since having Liam that outside circle has gotten smaller, but I've acquired a few more quality friends like my blog friends and mom friends. I'm happy with the friends I have now, couldn't ask for better people in my life.

  4. I used to spend a lot of time, energy and effort on holding onto friendships that were one-sided and falling apart because I couldn't just let go. Now that I'm in my 30s, I've come to realize that life is too short to spend it with people I don't enjoy spending time out of some inner obligation I put on myself. My friendships have changed a lot, starting when I went to college, then when I moved to BC for 4 years in 2007 and again now that I have a son. Moving definitely makes you learn quickly who your real friends are. Now I try and focus my energy and attention on maintaining friendships that I get a lot of joy out of. I agree with what Tawnya, people come into and out of your life for a reason and not all are meant to stay for the long run. I think it's so wonderful that you have such on old friendship like this one and that you both had baby's so close to each other!

  5. its to amazing to have a friendship like this. Like Tawnya said, most people go their whole lives without a friend like this! Its so special when something that lasts this long comes around!